The Water by the Edge of the Forest – On Depression and Healing

I know that I’m not the only one.

Although I haven’t entered the forest yet, I’ve come to realize that I’ve been playing in the small brook that sits outside of it. I can’t see the trees on my walls, but I can hear the birds within calling to me, and I have been starting to feel the breeze that passes through the leaves on my skin.

I’ve been so full of everything lately. It seems like there are too many emotions passing through me. Sitting by the waters edge has been calming, despite where the body of water resides. There is just so much. There are words that I want to write, find words for, learn how to pronounce, but there are too many of them.

A few months ago, I took the step to increase my medication. I take an antidepressant to manage my depression. I also started seeing a psychologist. I had a therapist before, so I’m no stranger to seeking help in someone that doesn’t know who I am.

Thankfully, even though I am playing near the water, letting paper boats that I have made sail slowly by, there are lights in the darkness that shine brightly. There is my beautiful husband. He doesn’t complete me as there is nothing missing.

I believe that, when the world was born, we were two. Two spirits in one body, living as one. Over time, we lost that other half of ourselves, and yet we always search for it, for the one person that we are supposed to be with.

We’re searching for that pull, waiting to feel a piece of ourselves in another person. I feel like the love I have with my husband is as if we had somehow found our way apart, two halves of one spirit, before finding the way to be together once more. We felt that spiritual pull within each other.

I have the light of my parents. Sometimes, I can see the light that is my Wonder Mom, Wonder Dad and Wonder Mom in Law like stars upon the water, fireflies that are always making sure to guide me to safety and light up the darkness that is around me so that I can see what it truly is.

There are so many friends in my life. They are lights that fill the dark velvet of the sky above me, too many stars to name in so many different colours: a fierce purple, a vibrant chocolate brown, a pink that reminds me of the sun in the mornings, filling the world with hope. They light the path away from the water that that lives by the forest where the air carries such a haunting and beautiful song in the air that surrounds those trees.

I’m okay this time. I have taken the steps that I needed to make sure that my mental health is in check and that I have balance in a world and a body that no longer makes sense. I am tired of living with fear, tired of being afraid of the people that I miss the most. I long for those lost moments where I could be one in a thousand and not feel any worry about the fact that I am surrounded by the breath of others.

Not so long ago, the breath of others used to sustain us. Now, the breath of others frightens me, not for who they are, but what their breath can contain. It’s odd, I don’t remember a night or day recently that do not live in some kind of fear, at least in some degree. It’s odd, but I’ve become so comfortable with it, so used to its embrace.

I’ve lost my motion for things. I don’t want to sit like a gargoyle on the stone, so I move, and I walk and I paint. I try to stay moving for as long as I can so that the shadows don’t have a chance to find me and pull me in.

I don’t want to disappear or lose myself in the darkness. I’m trying to find my way out of the shadows. I’m trying to set up barriers or boundaries for myself. I like to think of it like the briar wall that surrounded Aurora, that sleeping beauty, kept safe within the walls of her castle. I’ve been building, you see.

What destresses me most is that my words, where I found the most solace, have been painful for a while now. Gone are the days where I can write for a long time and lose myself in the worlds I create. I’m getting there, though. I’ve been trying to pull away the curtains that have begun to flutter, pulling them back to see clearly enough for a moment, a breath, so that I can let some words out.

Painting has been such a comfort to me. I’m able to see worlds like little windows within the confines of a canvas. Painting has been helping me to bring myself back from the brink of the shadows. I’ve loved finding my voice with my paints. I’ve known who I was as a writer for a while now. With painting, I’m just beginning to discover who I am.

While I’ve enjoyed the water by the forest, I’m tired of funning my fingers through water that never changes, water that has grown stagnant over time. I’m beginning to turn away from the water and I’m trying to walk back towards myself.

Every step matters.

Unlike the other times, when the forest has pulled me in so deeply, weaving its way under my skin so skillfully before I even realize it’s there, I know that I’ve done what I need to do so that I’m aware of the forest and the seductive danger that it holds within.

Every step matters. The only difference is that this time, I know that.    

Light Through the Trees – Creative Non-Fiction

I’ve started seeing the shadows again.

I can see them out of the corners of my eyes when I walk into a room, or when I look up from a book I’m reading. I have tried to ignore them. The trees may have given me shelter when I no longer wanted to interact with the world, but they demanded a price. I hoped that I would never see them again.

I try to ignore the shadows at first, but they’re growing stronger. I’m having difficulty paying attention to the world around me as I’m always on edge, waiting for them to reappear. I remember the shadows well. Though the forest has given me safety, it’s also taken so much from me; increasingly, I gave the forest so much of myself that I disappeared almost completely.

***

And yet, lately, it has been like a river.

This is new for me; it’s always been a forest before. I know those leaves so well; I can still hear the crunch of the twigs beneath my feet, the feeling of the bark against my fingers, and the scent of smoke in the air. Always.

Now, it feels like I’m filling up with water throughout the day. Every morning, I start taking on the weight of my emotions. It rains inside my body, and by the end of each evening I’m heavy with my unshed tears. The water flows into my dreams, taking me on strange and different voyages. By the morning, my body is dry and waits to be refilled.

This river frightens me like the forest used to. It feels like I’m drowning and by day’s end, I can’t breathe. I knew the forest so well, had given so much of myself to it. I don’t know what this river will take from me. I don’t know if I have anything left to give.

I hear my husband speaking to me, his words coming from far away. I turn to look at him, at his eyes that bring me calm, and I can see the shadows behind him, wavering along the walls.  If I tilt my head, I can hear a crow calling out to me. I wonder what game it’s playing at. I can also hear the water within me; the gentle lapping sound calls to me, bidding me give in to the flow of the water so that I won’t resurface.

“I’m sorry?” I ask him. It’s a struggle to get the words out. My mouth is full of water, rocks, and the grit of sand.

“What time are we waking up tomorrow?” He asks. “We’re going to see your parents for dinner. Did you want to go out for lunch beforehand?”

I say yes, and I try to look happy. I look around and it’s as if I’m looking at everything from far away. I’m looking down at my life from the top of a mountain, and even from here the sound of water climbs up the rockface, towards me. I don’t think I’m doing a very good job of seeming like I’m happy, and part of me wonders why I’m not happy. The home I’ve built with my husband should be a place of joy, but I’m finding it so difficult to find that joy within.

It’s so confusing to look out at my husband, best friend and soul mate, and feel only sadness when I see the shadows behind his head. I don’t want my depression to leech into him, or take away the light inside his eyes that has always ben able to guide me through the shadows when they have taken me over before.

Once, not so long ago, there was a time when the forest had begun to become my reality. I would walk outside and see only the shadows of the trees, hear only the harsh cry of the birds as they called out to me, jeering and laughing. Each caw was like a note of condemnation that I held onto wholeheartedly. I deserved all of them, every hateful one. It was no worse than what I had told myself a thousand times.

The forest almost took me that time.

I let the trees cut into me, not caring about the blood that had begun to flow from my cuts. Tears slid down my cheeks, even when I had no more tears to spare, nor water left in me. I watched as the river of my tears slid into the trails of blood, making it look as if they too were crying.

Michael found me in the shadows, and he took my hand in his. He led me to the stream that I knew weaved its way through the trees of the forest, and gently, he washed away the blood that marked my skin like a roadmap. I knew that he was hurting too, but he only cared about me. He used more water to wash away the tears that had streaked my face. When we rose together, we walked towards home so that we could start healing together, leaving the forest behind us for now.

***

The forest was always there, but eventually there was so much joy in my life that I was able to shine brighter than I had before. Shadows could not live within the light, yet each could not exist without the other. Depression is like that, it’s always within me, no matter how hard I try to fight against it. The forest always takes me back, and I find that I have to weave in and out of the trees, finding my way back home, to my husband. I’ve had to find a balance inside my own mind.

Help came to me because I asked for it. I found someone objective I could talk to; therapy is a great help, as is the medication I’m taking. These are two lifelines in a world full of shadows, real and imaginary. However, sometimes no matter how hard I work at shining brightly, the balance is thrown off and I find the shadows appearing around me, no matter what I do.

***

Inside myself, I know that I’ve run away to the forest.

Walking along the path is difficult. The water has found its way to my forest and the river that runs through the trees has flooded. As I make my way forward, my feet and ankles are covered by the water, its touch is cold.

I turned toward the mountain, knowing and hoping that salvation somehow lay beyond it. It’s only when I have climbed the mountain that I can see my way out of the forest, to find the light that has been trying to show me the way. The mountain takes everything from me, but gives me hope when I can overcome it.

I shiver and make my way further into the trees to find some kind of shelter. The water is up to my shins now, and I’m grabbing onto the tree branches on either side to find my footing as the leaves slice at my skin. I can feel the blood beginning to run down my arms, even as the water tries to overtake me.

I hear a voice above me. “Get up here,” the voice says. “Quickly, before the water rises any more.”

I look up into the leaves of the tree nearest to me. “Hello?” I ask. There has never been anyone else in my forest. My voice is loud even though I’m whispering.

“Can you reach my hand?” He says.

I see a hand come down from amongst the leaves. Without thinking, I grab hold and try to use my bare feet to clamber up the trunk of the tree. I let the hand pull me up, into the darkness. I can hear his breathing and the cascade of leaves around me as if the tree itself is taking in a breath. I’m safe in the branches; they protect me from the water. In the darkness, I can hear my heartbeat matching the thrum of the water. I can also hear his.

“Come with me,” he says. “We’re almost there, I’ll keep you safe. I’ll always keep you safe.” We climb up to another branch and then I can hear the rustle of leaves as he pushes them aside.

In the sunlight that shines through the trees, I can see my husband’s face, the light in his eyes and his smile as he looks at me more brightly than any sun I have known.

***

“Babe?” I try to find my voice; it sounds different with my mouth filled with water and sediment. “I’m not doing well,” I tell him.

My beautiful husband, Michael, looks at me, “What do you need from me?” He asks, encircling me in his arms. I feel safe when I look into his eyes; they look like the sea, changing from blue to grey to green.

I know that I can’t do this alone, that if I go on much longer, I will not be able to stay afloat and eventually the water and the dark will take me. I can’t let that happen again. I can’t let the dark win, and I know that I can’t continue on the same path as I have been. I’m lost in the forest and can’t find the sun.

“The water is so strong; in my head, you know?” I take a chance and look at him, seeing only warmth in his eyes. His gaze pleads with me to go on. “It’s just too much. I’ve been so sad, but I want you to know that it’s not you.”

“What do you need from me?” he asks me again.

“I think I need to call my doctor and increase my antidepressants.”

There is no judgement in his eyes, no hatred or revulsion. There is only concern. “It’s a lot,” he said. “You deal with a lot, and I don’t know how you do it. I think it’s a good idea that you talk to your doctor about what you’re going through. You know that you always have me, and your parents. You are not alone.”

He hugs me and I feel safe in his arms. I can still hear the water and the wind in the leaves, but I can hear other things, too. I can hear the beating of my husband’s heart, my heart answering back, and I let myself be rocked gently by that sound. The sounds of animals in the forest begin to emerge, too: the call of sparrows as they land in the trees, the chatter of rabbits and squirrels, the long low howl of a dog.

I can also hear the call of a bear as it lumbers through the forest, its roars loud and fierce enough to quiet the endless cawing of the birds.

The Seashell and the Sword – A Poem

I am pushing past the layers of myself.

Using a sword, I try to find the portal

to the deeper self which I hold inside.

It has remained in the dark for too long.

Letting the sword guide me with its light,

I feel the wind is at my back and the aroma of earth

is in my nostrils. I can smell cedarwood

and the fragrance of a fire long since burned out.

The scent of pine is on my fingers as I delve further,

trying to find the pulse that is within in me.

The sword breaks through a layer that has remained hidden

and I follow the glow that shows itself

in colours of cerulean blue and peacock green.

Water sluices over my skin and the light

begins to fade as I move on.

Past the beat of my heart which I can hear,

a constant tattoo of sound,

there is another thud that is different.

It’s this sound that I am following to its source.

Mismatched and offbeat, it has a rhythm is its own.

Here, there is no light, only and the green and blue reflections

that shine from my skin.

I can see into a cave that is dripping with more water

the colour of a purple sky,

I spot a seashell. It is a deep earthly colour,

copper, rust and mud

and sand falls from my fingers as I pull it free.

I hold the shell for a moment.

It feels heavier than it should. It looks too small

to hold such weight.

I take a deep breath and put the shell to my ear.

“Only girls cry, Jamie. I don’t want to see your tears and if I do, I’ll give you something to cry about.”

As the words fill my head, I can see myself as I used to be,

looking up at my father who loomed like a dark shadow over me.

“You have to give everything you can, Jamie. No one will care that you’re a fucking cripple. You’ll have to give more.”

It didn’t take me too long to realize that he was not

capable of an emotion that should have come without thought.

“What are you? Are you stupid? Are you a stupid cripple? You have to give one hundred and ten percent. Nothing else matters and nothing else will do.”

I take the seashell from my ear. All I can hear

is the drip of water and the beating of my heart.

I step back from myself so that I can find

the entrance to the portal again.

By my side is the sword that helped me find my way

and in my hands is a seashell that contains

the push that I need to leave behind.

What the Shadows Hold – A Poem

I am constantly
on a journey to find myself,
carrying two others within
who have me in their grip.
I have had to relearn simple tasks like:
doing the dishes, making coffee, typing, walking, speaking, trying to stand up in a shower so that I can bathe myself, being able to dress myself.
I thought I was done fighting,
that I had taken back control.
The shadow underneath my skin reminds me every once in a while that it has control when it takes my body away from me.
I don’t have control, no matter what I may think. I have to fight past the mountain that call my body home.
The thing is,
shadows are afraid of light.
I merely have to shine so that I can reveal
what the shadows hold
so that I can climb the mountains that
are in my blood.

The Two Blackbirds of Inglewood Hamlet – A Fairy Tale

Once upon a time in the little village of Inglewood Hamlet, there lived a shapeshifter.

This was nothing out of the ordinary for the little village, nor even the entire Kingdom. It was rife with magic. Strange things have been known to happen to its villagers and, according to the old oracle woman that lives on the edge of town, magic always had something to do with it. She would be glad to tell you all about it; I think she’d even have a piece of pie and a hot cuppa tea ready for you in a jiffy.

There were some days he was a lamp to give light to the librarian who was having trouble seeing lately, or he’d be a cat for the girl that so desperately wanted a cat of her own. It was young Mr. and Mr. Gladius’ youngest. They lived in the centre of town and the two men ran the local bar and bedsit. They were very kind parents, but they were often very busy. He kept Anna company when he knew she was loneliest.

He would often go by the orphanage and help our where he could. He would change into a dog that would go around and see each child that lived there and let them pet him and he would sit with them for a bit until each of them had a smile on their face. He would turn into a quill so that the teacher who was always losing her own could continue teaching.

Long ago, he had tried to find the reason that he could change into either beast or inanimate object as being able to do both defied what he knew as possible. Then he decided that it didn’t matter and swore that he would lend his gift to those in need. No thought went toward his own needs as he got joy from giving to those around him.

That’s why the girl who could change herself into a blackbird had him so curious.

He had never met another shapeshifter before. He had met plenty of fey folk, others who were capable of all kinds of magics, but never another who could change the shape of their bodies. From what he could tell, she could only turn herself into a blackbird. He had been observing her for so long that one night he was surprised to find that he could not find her.

She was not in her usual haunts. He had checked the book and scroll shop and the birds in the park that liked to flock together in the rowan trees that filled the centre square of Inglewood Hamlet. He had even taken the form of a Raven, hoping that it would make it easier to find her.

So intent was he to find the blackbird girl that he didn’t even notice when she flew down beside him. “You know, if you’re going to follow someone around, you should be polite and tell them why.”

Jumping back, he had to flap his wings a few times until he could settle down again. “Sorry,” he said. “I’ll stop.”

“I didn’t say stop,” she said, letting out a caw. “How about we start with your name.”

He was taken aback. No one had asked him his name for so long, but they were keen to give him one if they needed to. He thought of all the different names he had been called as a stray cat or dog he even thought briefly of the favourite books he had become. “You know, I’ve always loved the name Milo.”

“Well, Milo, it’s a pleasure to meet another shifter. My name is Kimberlee.” She gave him a smile that came through in the sudden gleam in her eyes. “I take it you saw me stealing bread from Messer’s Don and Juan.”

He nodded. “I saw you swoop down and steal a loaf of bread as a bird from their bakery cart and slip into the form of a girl as you walked away.” Milo said.

“I figured; I could feel you watching. You were the candle flame in in the light box on the end of first street, weren’t you? It had been burning brighter than usual.”

“Mr. Lewis hadn’t ordered the right number of matches, and he wasn’t able to light me. I could feel him getting worried and then frantic, so I quickly changed into a flame.” Milo explained. “I didn’t want him to be upset, or people to lose their way without the flame to guide them.”

“Are you always so kind hearted?” Another smile came through in her eyes and she hopped closer to him.

He ruffled his feathers. “I try to be.”

“Good, there needs to be more kindness in the world. But don’t forget to be kind to yourself,” she said to him gently.”

“I’m not sure I know how. I have been helping others for as long as I can remember. I didn’t even know what my name was until you asked me.”

There was a startled from the other blackbird and then he watched as she began to change. To Milo, it looked like she was knitting herself together with pieces of the land and sky around her, painting her face with the clouds and the limbs of the trees around them.

He blinked and the girl was sitting in front of him. She held out her hand and he hopped into it. “What’s your real form?”

“I’ve forgotten,” Milo said. “I’ve been everything for everyone else for so long that I’ve forgotten where I begin and end.”

Kimberlee held him up to her eyes.  “Try and think back. Do you remember what you looked like before you ever changed? Did you parents ever take a photograph of you? My parents took so many of me when I was a child that I could paper the walls with pictures of myself.”

Nodding, Milo tried to think backwards. His mothers pride was her photos. She had called them memory keepers. He seemed to remember a small boy with brown hair and brown eyes, but there was a tinkle in the eyes that matched the smile.

“Do you have the image in your head?” Kimberlee asked him gently.

“Yes, I do.”

“Good, now see if you can choose yourself as you would choose to be one of the other objects that you have been.”

“I can’t,” he said.

“You can. Just choose yourself, it’s that easy.”

He let out a little caw and tried to hold on to the picture of himself that he had in his mind. He looked at the boy he had forgotten to be and wondered how long it had been since he had held his true form. For all he knew, he was older than the child that he could see within him, but how was he to know?

It wasn’t that his eyes were closed, necessarily, but one moment he was a raven and the next, he was that boy, dressed in clothes that looked like they had been made by leaves. His hair was falling into his eyes and when he raised his hand to brush his hair off his forehead did he realize that he was a boy again.

Kimberlee looked at him, that kindness he had seen in the crows eyes bright in her human ones. “Nice to meet you, Milo.”

“Thank you,” he said.

“It get’s easier each time you change shape to lose yourself. You tend to give away a piece of yourself when you first start changing shape.”

“Were you a crow for a long time the first time you shifted?” Milo asked.

“Yes, at fist because I didn’t know how to change back. Then, because I enjoyed it so much. However, I soon found myself within myself, and have been changing back and forth ever since. I’ve never met a shape shifter like you before, able to change into anything.”

“Can you only change into a blackbird?”

She nodded with a happy smile. “Just a crow shape for me, I’m afraid. But it’s all I ever wanted, really. I’ve gotten to see the world and experience so many things.”

“But don’t you miss home?” Milo asked.

Kimberlee’s eyes darkened for a moment, her face filled with a sadness he hadn’t noticed before. Then she blinked and when she looked at Milo, she was giving him another kind look. “Don’t you?” She asked.

Standing, Kimberlee tilted her head to the sky so that she could smell the wind. Milo did the same and knew that it was changing course. He could feel the wind as it moved along his skin, begging him to join it and fly to somewhere new. He looked at Kimberlee, understanding dawning within him.

“You’re going away.”

“It’s all I know,” she said. “You know well the life of an artist. Always onward to the next mountain, a new river, an unknown terrain.”

“How will I find you again?”

“Give me a feather,” she said.

He held out his right arm and he watched as a scattering of feathers appeared there. He chose one for her and presented it like a gift. She did the same and let a black crow’s feather fall from her fingers into his left palm.

“When we have need for each other, we will always be able to find other. We won’t be far apart that way. Us shifters have to stick together.”

“Thank you,” Milo said, tucking the feather in his coat pocket.

“Now, don’t you have a home to find?” She asked.

“I don’t know where it is,” Milo said. “I’ve looked everywhere for it but can’t find it.”

“Have you looked within yourself?” She asked gently. She began to change softly, letting the threads that she had knitted herself together with fall away gently. “If you look at the photo of yourself long enough, you will be able to find your way home.”

With a movement of the clouds and a scattering of stars, Kimberlee stood in front of him, her feathers bright with shadows that have swallowed the light. She let the wind take her and Milo stood watching Kimberlee fly away but he could feel the crows feather inside of his coat shining against his body.

He looked at the streets of Inglewood Hamlet. Closing his eyes, he looked at the photograph of himself that he carried. When he opened his eyes, he knew where to go. There was a line of gold mist that curved itself along the cobblestone streets leading the way to where he belonged.

Taking the shape of a raven once more, Milo followed the gold line towards home.

Or so the story goes….